Tips for Single Moms

I can't exactly call myself a single mom any more however I was a single mom and will always remember that experience as being one of the best experiences I have had. Say what? Yes, it has shaped me to be a strong as I am and to stand by what I want and to love like I would have never loved. 

So here are my tips for all the single mommas out there. 

1. You can do this.

- You may feel like you have no one but your beautiful baby in your life but truly that is all you need. You stick in there till you get through the tough days and you will find sunshine at the end. I know that sounds cheesy but trust me you can do it. 

2. Its okay to cry. 

 - Gosh this is probably the most important one for me. I had some pretty tough days were I thought I had lost my mind and wasn't going to make it through this journey. So many nights of crying and no one there to help me. I remember calling my mom and begging her to come help me. I cried like a baby, I would lay Millie down and make sure she was safe and then I'd go to the bathroom turn the water on and just cry and cry and cry. It is okay to cry, it is only natural to feel like you can't do this alone because in reality you weren't meant to do this alone. 

3. All you need to know is a baby needs to be loved. 

   - I struggled with this because I knew I couldn't afford to buy Millie new toys and I thought she would someday hate me for it. I have come to learn that things are just things but love is irreplaceable. I realize that I did not get everything I ever wanted as a child but all I can think is that I had it all with a mother who loved me so much. 

4. Quit thinking your doing it all wrong. 

   - To anyone that tells you what you are doing is wrong just push them to the side and out of mind. It's hard enough being a single mom, let alone having every parenting choice you make monitored by a bunch of  idiots that don't know your child. Stop... Unless you are abusing your child (which if you are please find help!) your child is amazing and you are doing an amazing job with your child no matter what anyone thinks. 

5. Be resourceful!

    - This is kinda a fun one! There are always ways to get things done. Like taking a shower. This one was a tough one for me to learn. Here are some tips for that. 

         1. Grab a bouncer and strap your little one in. If your paranoid about not being able to see the baby get a clear curtain so you can see them through it and know they are okay. 

          2. Get there car seat and strap them in. Put some blankets rolled up in front and behind them so that the car seat doesn't go backwards.

          3. If neither of these work try taking a shower/bath with your little one. Kill two bird with one stone kinda thing here. 

Okay so there are three ways just there. If you are struggling finding away to get something done look online and on pintrest. Pintrest saved my life honestly. So many good ideas on that site. 

Just some tips! If you have any other tips for single moms comment below! We all could use the help :)