So let me tell you about my first real date where the guy paid for everything and it was a nice little dinner. We stayed near home so if Millie needed me I could get to her. I was late as always... but I will just call it fashionably late! ;-) I get there I sit down across from him and start talking. It was nice he was a gentleman and we bantered back and forth. I am pretty sure he could tell I was nervous. I was very very nervous. I had never met this guy and I could already see there were going to be problems. He was much quieter than me... this drives me insane. I can talk for hours but I don't want to, I just want someone who tells me to shut up so they can talk. Or someone who at least engages enough so where I don't feel like the only one talking. Anyways, if that wasn't enough of a problem (this part might make me sound shallow) he was like half an inch shorter than me. Basically good buy heels. I hate heels but I like to wear them every now and then. I hate being taller I have dated shorter guys and I just can't. Physically it just isn't comfortable for me.
I was just hoping I could escape the night without and weird uncomfortable kisses... YEA RIGHT. In my dreams would anything ever go good in a situation like this. So we got up walked around the square in town and finally back to my car. We stood there all awkwardly and he leaned in to kiss me and I puckered out my lips and pecked him on the lips... it was the worst thing that has ever happened to me. I've always felt comfortable with the guys I've dated kissing them at least. I never felt so awkward in my life. I kinda figured the peck would have made him realize that I did not want to kiss him but no he tried twice more... twice.... Like really.
So anyways I haven't talked to him much since that night....
As a mom, I kept having this feeling that I should pick the right guy the first time and marry him. That night taught me a very important lesson. I do not need to marry the first guy I'm dating. I can go on 20 dates first dates see what I like and then if someone catches my eye if someone makes me happy I just go on a second date. I don't have to introduce anyone to my daughter before I am ready. I have also learned it is okay to have bad dates. That's how we learn what we really like and don't like.
I think it is important for single moms to stop looking for the perfect dad for their child and look for the perfect man for you. A man can be great with your kids but not so good with you. He should care about both of you not just your child. Trust me though, I know how hard that can be. BUT YOU CAN DO IT!
"Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can come together" Marilyn Monroe
Date Night!
