Relationship 101

Being in a relationship is a lot of work between having to pay bills and making sure everyone is happy and everything else involved in being a couple. I can see how some relationships fail. It is very hard to put aside your feelings and see how the other person is feeling.

When your in a relationship you have to learn to be as fair as possible and to try to see things from the other partners eyes.

Don't get me wrong I am the last person to give relationship advice because I am trying to figure it all out myself.

It is the first time in my life that I have had a true relationship with someone who I knew I could see myself with forever. It is honestly amazing and I love him so very much that my heart wouldn't know what to do if he wasn't around anymore.

I am what you would call the abandoner...the run away from your problems and hide. If I don't have to talk about it I am one happy chicky. Okay but that's not reasonable to anyone else, they would think I was being self centered. I hate confrontation, it scares me, I will pretend the problem never happened instead of confronting the problem. I also know I am not the only one out there with this problem either.

In a relationship I have learned that ignoring a problem only makes it worse. The other person gets upset because they know me and know something is wrong but can't get me to talk about it. However I am working so hard at changing or at least being able to talk about problems before they get worse. I have always had a fear that if I show someone that I am upset that they will think I am being silly and leave me.

I have never wanted someone in my life more than I have wanted Josh. I know he feels the same way about me as well.

Truly if you aren't with someone that you can tell everything to then whats the point?

I have secrets. Of course we all have some embarrassing quality about ourselves we don't want anyone to ever know. I thought I would never be able to be myself with Josh. However I am starting to learn that no matter what I tell him about my past or about myself that he has yet to leave. I love that when I come home I can tell him anything and everything and he doesn't judge me for any of it. I have never ever had that before in my life....and it is freeing.

I think overall being in a relationship is tough, its work just like anything else is. However its the kind of work your willing to do because you love your significant other so much and you couldn't imagine being with anyone else. When I say a relationship is tough I mean that you can't give up, giving up is not an option. You can't agree on everything and you have to work together to find a middle ground.

There are some qualities that I have that Josh does not have and there are some qualities Josh has and I do not. I personally believe that is why we work so well together. We even each other out, we learn from each other.

I've always said if you aren't learning something new everyday then why are you here?

I hope everyone can find someone like Josh is to me.

Jessy-