Is it May already?
Gosh I can't believe it! I feel like 2015 has gone by so fast. I am not sure if this is because I am a mommy and things start flying once you have a kid, or if this year is just really exciting.
Starting to feel like its because I am a mommy. I am watching this beautiful human grow up and flourish and it seems like each day just goes a little to fast. So obviously if you have read my other posts you know that Millie was not planned. However I keep having this thought on the reasons we want to have kids. I mean other than the obvious reasons such as creating beautiful life and keeping our species alive.
So my reasons at this point if I was to have more kids or had that option they would be....
1. Because creating something with some one you love is such a beautiful thing.
2. Life only has so many enjoyments and I feel watching a child grow up is one of the most amazing feelings ever.
3. I want to bring up my own child differently than my parents brought me up.
Okay so there are plenty of more reasons than this but I did't want to go on for days.
Now an Explanation:
1. I feel that when you fall in love with someone you create this amazing bond that can't be broken. I think in life though we look to create new bonds and to move forward. Imagine your with this amazing guy or girl (whatever you choose) and decide to be together forever. You know this person like the back of your hand and together you two seem stronger together. Life doesn't just stop their you get bored almost with each other and need newness. Maybe bored isn't the right word but I just mean you may get to a point where all the fun excitement of your first found love may wear off a tad.
So you decide to create life. I personally feel when you are in love and create a child it has got to be one of the best feelings. Knowing that your child comes from love and from your heart. I hope to someday experience this.
Now before you say anything about my daughter. Let me put it this way. I love that baby with my entire heart. To me that is my baby that I created with my heart and love. She is perfect and their is no difference between her and a child I hope to have with a spouse except that I will have someone else there to support me.
2. I really have enjoyed being a mother. There has been struggles but each morning I wake up and think wow my life is pretty amazing. Getting to experience my daughter growing up is so much fun. Every First is amazing. Her first steps I straight up cried I was so happy. I know that with each child wonderful times are to come.
3. I love my mother very much and respect many of the ways she raised me. However I do hope to give my child a bit different of a lifestyle then our family had. I hope to be very open with my daughter about many things that may not be socially acceptable to other parents. Things such as sex. I want my daughter to feel that sex is okay and its a wonderful thing. I want her to know how to protect herself.
I also want her to have many many experiences that I never got as a child. I was very sheltered, and I hope to never take important moments away from my children. They only get to experience things in childhood once and I won't take that childhood away from them.
Lastly, I want my daughter to make mistakes. I want her to learn who she is by making her own mistakes. I will warn her but I will still stand by her when she has fallen. I won't hide her away until all the bad in the world is gone. She has to learn who she is and all of that is included.
Maybe our reasons are extremely different. Maybe they aren't. It doesn't matter though all that matters is that you have good reason. (Which is really whatever you feel like it should be.)
So what are your reasons? If your reading let me know in the comments. :)

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